Parenting today is much different than it was for previous generations. Instead of worrying about the kids playing outside after dark we worry about them taking a wrong turn online and ending up in the dark web. Parents today need to balance teaching children how to use these tools while keeping them safe online. Add in concerns about social ostracization because the child is not on social media while also going through all the family changes that come with a divorce and it is no surprise that divorcing parents feel overwhelmed. Thankfully, there are ways parents can address these frustrations – even when they are going through a divorce.
One tool that can help: the parenting plan.
What is a parenting plan?
Parents who are going through a divorce in any state are generally encouraged to put together a parenting plan. This document can help to address how the divorcing couple will continue their role as parents. Mental health experts encourage parents to opt for co-parenting whenever possible. This involves the parents having their own relationships with the children but agreeing to uphold core principles when raising the children. This can be as general as encouraging extracurricular activities or as specific as set bedtimes.
Although the provisions with the plan can vary, more and more parents are including language about social media use.
How can parents include social media use within a parenting plan?
The particulars will depend on the age of the child and the parent’s goals. It is also helpful to review specific social media sites for policies regarding age and use. Age restrictions listed within a specific platform can serve as a starting point for the conversation. The rules that you chose to include in your plan can be relatively generic and dictate overall screen time limitations or, if the parents can agree, more specific and outline ages that the children can start using social media platforms.
This is just one of many discussions parents should have when putting together parenting plans and custody agreements during a divorce. Addressing these concerns during the divorce process can help provide clarity as children transition to family life after the divorce is finalized.
