The reasons for divorce are too many to name: Infidelity, getting married too young, living with an abusive spouse, running into financial problems, and much more. All divorce cases are different. It’s important to understand what types of issues may lead to divorce, even if they’re not the major ones listed above. 

For instance, did you know that one of the big reasons for divorce is just unmet expectations? Marriage just is not what you thought it would be. 

Perhaps, for example, you have a certain love language, like spending time together. Your spouse’s love language is giving gifts. You thought marriage meant you’d get to spend lazy weekends together, cuddling on the couch and watching movies. Instead, your spouse is always out with their friends, bringing you gifts when they get home. They don’t understand why you don’t feel loved or why you’re so frustrated. 

Or, maybe your spouse expected you to take care of the house. You have no desire to be a housekeeper and you want to split up the tasks. Both of you may feel frustrated by the other person’s approach. 

Remember, expectations do not even have to be realistic for the marriage to fall short. Maybe you expected it to feel like your honeymoon for 20 years, and it doesn’t. Sure, that may be an unrealistic goal, but it still leaves you unsatisfied with the boring normalcy of your life. When your expectations for marriage go unmet and you decide that it’s time to split up, make sure you are well aware of the legal steps you need to take